| Location | Exmouth |
| Age | 28 years |
| Cause of Death | Suicide |
| Date of Birth | 23/03/1979 |
| Date of Death | 03/06/2007 |
| Visitors | 3,992 since 02/07/2007 |
| Creator |
'Weep not for me and sorrow take; just love my children for my sake'
Martin Collett lived in Exmouth, but was born in Cheltenham. He took his own life on 3rd June 2007
after a particularly bad period in his life. He was 28 years old and leaves his widow and 2
children. He was also greatly loved by his mum, dad, 2 sisters, 2 nephew, 2 nieces, uncles,
aunties, friends and in laws on both sides of the family and also his step daughter Jasmine.
It’s a very hard thing, when a person has died, for those who are left behind to put into words
what it is they feel.
But here are some things, some words, that have been shared with me about Martin, that I now share
with you – some thoughts and memories of the person Martin has been:
Martin was a kind, a genuine, a compassionate and helpful person who would do anything for anyone.
He was a wonderful father, being at the birth of Jordan and Tristan, his two children, who he loved
very much.
He’d often buy presents for them, like train sets, (though often he’d enjoy playing with the
things he’d bought them just about as much as they did. There was always, in the best sort of way,
something of the ‘big kid’ about him – a child at heart).
He was full of life, full of energy, full of excitement, scampering about as the nickname
‘Scamp’ tells you. He couldn’t sit still for 5 minutes, and was always in a hurry, dashing
about from A to B. When he had something to tell you… it could be difficult to keep up!
He was quite a character, quite a joker, a comedian, and had a great sense of humour. Annoying as
his laugh might be found,… you couldn't help but join in.
He worked for years as a maintenance worker in a care home with his accomplice, Terry. Several
stories could be told, including Martin managing somehow to stick electrical wire in his eye,
setting alarms off and claiming it was a test, and teaching staff how to clean up after his and
Terry’s maintenance endeavours, all of which earned him their nickname ‘Bodgit and Scarper’!
His adventures with DIY also continued at home. One of his projects was to wire the bathroom. He did
such a ‘good’ job that when you put the bathroom light on… the TV in the front room would go
off!
A great deal more could be said about Martin.
He was a very lovable character, loved by a lot of people, who’s left a big whole in the lives of
those who knew him. He will be sadly missed.
Martin was my husband and friend. We had our ups and downs but he meant the world to me and now he
has gone there is a big hole in my life that i don't know how to fill. I miss you Scamp so much you
were my everything if you'd only realised it.
I Miss You So Much
People try to help me
And everyone's so kind
But no matter what they say to me
I always seem to find
I start to get upset again
They can see it in my face
I wonder how they'd handle it
If they were in my place
They look at me with sympathy
In a caring sort of way
I thank them and attempt a smile
Then as I walk away
The tears start welling up again
Every time its the same
I simply fall to pieces
At the mention of your name.
I love you xx
It's lonely here without you
I miss you more each day
For life is not the same for me
Since you went away
If I could have one lifetime wish
One dream that could come true
I would pray to god with all my heart
For yesterday & you
God bless you Martin & Kate xx
martin look after kate she needs you. I am so sorry for your loss kate,my heart goes out to you,i know how you r feeling and what u are going through ,because i am going through the same pain.please contact me anytime. love to you.xxxxx
reflections
martin, I hope you visit Kate in your dreams tonight to let her know your rested and at peace with yourself, its hard when you have left loved ones behind, and at a time when you feel you have no choice but to leave, I hope you have shared some chats with my brother as I lost him in April and its hard to to deal with the after effects of a loved one leving us alone and wondering why.. the why's are the worst along with the understanding. Your family miss you very much and your kate is suffering her emotions are raw and she is finding it hard to cope with you. I hope at somepoint you are able to let her know she has nothing to ask for forgiveness not any hurt she feels she has caused. Nobody should blame themselves when a loved one leaves, Kate needs to take each day as its comes and try and be stronger. kate please email me anytime you are feeling low or just need to say hi to somebody who can understand alittle. My thoughts are with all of you at this time, and it will get better not tomorrow nor the next day, but in time you will be ok. I feel you for. love pauline x
Reflections after leaving...
Another day for you to wonder, another day for you to mourn
It wasn't my intention to go before the coming dawn
My pain was deep within my heart and troubled head
It wasn't my intention to go without words said.
My frame of mind seemed normal, or so I heard them say
It wasn't my intention not to see another day
I did not mean to make you suffer or cause you so much pain
It wasn't my intention to never see you again.
Despair and confusion left my aching mind unsure
It wasn't my intention to suddenly close life's door
If only I could give you reasons and brush the tears away
It wasn't my intention to leave you and not stay.
I did not mean for you to grieve, now left alone to cry
It wasn't my intention to leave you, forever asking why
As the burdens of life's worries slowly ebb from my heart
it wasn't my intention to tear your soul apart
kate
so sorry kate about martin my thoughts are with you and your two little boys.dont blame yourself for what as happened as no one knows why people take there own lives can be lots of reasons that they dont tell about.try stay strong for yours sons as must be very hard for them.thinking of you kate take care xxxxxx
love you forever
Words can never say how much I miss you. I wish you were here with me or I there with you. I didn't realise how much I relied on you until I couldn't anymore. The pain is so intense I feel like its choking me. I have to remember you are at peace and in paradise but that doesn't help. I have no idea how to live my life without you. I love you so much and I am so sorry for all the hurt I caused you. I will never forgive myself. Just wish you were here to hold me, and the boys and your step daughter who you bought into this world. I know she would of loved you as much as we all do. I love you Martin so so much xx
hugs from heaven
by Charlotte Anselmo
When you feel a gentle breeze
Caress you when you sigh
It's a hug sent from Heaven
From a loved one way up high.
If a soft and tender raindrop
Lands upon your nose
They've added a small kiss
As fragile as a rose.
If a song you hear fills you
With a feeling of sweet love
It's a hug sent from Heaven
From someone special up above.
If you awaken in the morning
To a bluebird's chirping song
It's music sent from Heaven
To cheer you all day long.
If tiny little snowflakes
Land upon your face
It's a hug sent from Heaven
Trimmed with Angel lace.
So keep the joy in your heart
If you're lonely my dear friend
Hugs that are sent from Heaven
A broken heart will mend
Hello Kate, thank you for your message on my Dad's site, I'm sorry for what you're going through. You're not alone with the family thing, I just wish they could just put difference aside, accept the fact that a lot of people loved them, and stop blaming others when someone dies. It really is terrible. My own family are the same, all because me and my Dad had a petty row, they want to throw it in my face now, disown me and my Husband, my Mum and worst of all my 3 little girls. Sometimes it gets extremely tough for me, then I have an 'up' moment when I just tell myself, it's their loss, their stubborn, stupid ways. But when people behave like this and start dis-owning family members in time of grief, it makes me sick. We all are grieving, we should be able to grieve and remember our loved ones together. Kate, I know it's terribly tough, but you just try and keep your chin up, you've got his children, which are part of him. that is more than any one else will ever have of Martin, and you have your beauiful memories no-one can ever erase. Take care, from Sarah xx
Martin, you had your reasons, you just couldn't see past that big black cloud. It isn't anyone's fault. PLease, look out for your family and Kate. Keep them safe. i hope you have found your peace you were searching for. May you rest now. xx
When I have no one to turn to
And I am feeling kind of low,
When there is no one to talk to
And nowhere I want to go,
I search deep within myself
It is the love inside my heart
That lets me know my Angels are there
Even though we are miles apart.
A smile then appears upon my face
And the sun begins to shine.
I hear a voice, so soft and sweet
Saying, 'Everything will be just fine'
It may seem that I am alone
But I am never by myself at all.
Whenever I need my Angels near
All I have to do is call.
An Angel's love is always true
On that you can depend.
They will always stand behind you
And will always be your friend.
Through darkest hours and brightest days
Our Angel's see us through
They smile when we are happy, and will cry when we are blue..
Thanks for being my Angel my friend
I will be there for you until the end.
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